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- Wedding Ideas & Advice for the Couple, Wedding Party and Guests
Rings and Pillows and Bearers - Oh My! Everything You Need To Know.
| If the bride and groom-to-be decide to include children in their wedding, they will most likely choose a ring bearer. The ring bearer can be a relative, close family friend, or a former babysitting charge. Contrary to popular belief, the ring bearer can be a boy or a girl. |
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| Wedding etiquette for ring bearers imitates that of flower girls and junior bridesmaids. The child is usually between the ages of four and eight. A younger child is less likely to cooperate, and may be harder to control during the ceremony. An older child may feel insulted by this "babyish" role and should instead be considered for a position as junior usher. |
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| Before any decisions are made, the engaged couple should discuss the matter with the child’s parents, considering personality, temperament and maturity level. With the parents permission, the engaged couple should approach the child and ask him to participate. Let him know how much his assistance and presence would mean to you. Since little boys don’t usually "play wedding" the way girls do, he may not be interested. If that is the case, don’t force the issue. |
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Cost of attire. The engaged couple and the parents of the ring bearer should discuss this matter ahead of time. Will the ring bearer be dressed like the ushers in a miniature tuxedo? Will his bow tie coordinate with the bridesmaids? Once the choice of attire is decided, the bride-to-be can go shopping with the ring bearer and parents, or she can trust them to shop on their own. Either way, the parents are responsible for the cost of rental or purchase of attire. If costs are an issue, explore other options and try to compromise |
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Attend rehearsal. The dinner may be past his bedtime, but the ring bearer should most definitely be present at the rehearsal. Even if his responsibilities have been thoroughly explained, acted out and practiced, he should have the chance to rehearse with the rest of the wedding party at the actual ceremony location. |
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Walk down the aisle in the wedding procession. The ring bearer traditionally precedes the bride, often with the flower girl as his partner. If the child is especially young, consider having a parent or bridesmaid lead him down the aisle. The parents should also be seated close by, and the child should know beforehand where his parents will be. |
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Carry a satin pillow with two wedding rings. The wedding rings will most likely be fake—the best man should be holding the real ones. The symbolic rings will be tied to a satin pillow that has been purchased or handmade by the bride or groom’s family. |
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Be available for photographs. Although he doesn’t take part in the receiving line or sit at the head table, the ring bearer is included in formal wedding pictures. |
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